Monday, August 16, 2004
Missing you...
I just came across this quote from one of my daily meditations & thought I'd reflect on it for a moment. "Love must sometimes bear a stern countenance for the sake of ultimate good."
Being a parent is no easy matter. Just ask any parent. I can't tell you how many times I've wanted to quit the job & run away but its something that you're stuck with for the rest of your life. How you handle it, is an entirely different matter. And there are probably as many styles of parenting as there are parents. It's not like there's one all-purpose book, "How to be a Successful Parent in 10 Easy Steps" & that's probably why what is sometimes seen as unfairness & uncaring in the eyes of our children is really a matter of a deep love that abides within our hearts along with a style of parenting that we adapted along the way, perhaps from the way we were raised. We just do the best we can...with ultimate good behind our every decision. We really do love you & care about you so very very much...even if we don't agree.
Which brings me to this further reflection....how very much I miss my Mom. Saturday, August 14th , marked the 10th anniversary since my Mom passed away in 1994. Has it really been that long? Being an only child, not having any other relatives living close by & being without a Mom is no easy matter, especially in an area where family seems to be a pretty big deal. I get to feeling sad sometimes when I see families hanging out together, at sporting events & carnivals & family picnics & reunions. I want some of that, too...all of that, as a matter of fact! But I guess the bottom line is...we can't have everything we want. So, we're left with the next best thing...to appreciate what we DO have & be grateful for the times when we were able to be together. And there were good times...
My advice is to make every moment count NOW. Create those HAPPY moments, those precious memories that will last a life-time. Forgive & forget... Live in the moment & be thankful, really & truly thankful for what you DO have NOW!
I miss my Mom so very very much inspite of our conflicts & disagreements. I tried to be a strict Mom whereas she spoiled her grandkids. I guess that's what Grandmothers are all about. I hope I get my chance someday too...! And if not, oh well.... I'll figure something else out. I also realize that I sometimes resented the love that she poured out upon her Grandkids, mainly because that's what I missed so much growing up. Later I realized that this was her way of making amends...I just wished I had taken notice sooner.
Thanks, Mom! for being there for me & for caring for me, even when I didn't notice. Hope you're having a good time now & in all eternity. I wish you the very best... Until we meet again...!
Being a parent is no easy matter. Just ask any parent. I can't tell you how many times I've wanted to quit the job & run away but its something that you're stuck with for the rest of your life. How you handle it, is an entirely different matter. And there are probably as many styles of parenting as there are parents. It's not like there's one all-purpose book, "How to be a Successful Parent in 10 Easy Steps" & that's probably why what is sometimes seen as unfairness & uncaring in the eyes of our children is really a matter of a deep love that abides within our hearts along with a style of parenting that we adapted along the way, perhaps from the way we were raised. We just do the best we can...with ultimate good behind our every decision. We really do love you & care about you so very very much...even if we don't agree.
Which brings me to this further reflection....how very much I miss my Mom. Saturday, August 14th , marked the 10th anniversary since my Mom passed away in 1994. Has it really been that long? Being an only child, not having any other relatives living close by & being without a Mom is no easy matter, especially in an area where family seems to be a pretty big deal. I get to feeling sad sometimes when I see families hanging out together, at sporting events & carnivals & family picnics & reunions. I want some of that, too...all of that, as a matter of fact! But I guess the bottom line is...we can't have everything we want. So, we're left with the next best thing...to appreciate what we DO have & be grateful for the times when we were able to be together. And there were good times...
My advice is to make every moment count NOW. Create those HAPPY moments, those precious memories that will last a life-time. Forgive & forget... Live in the moment & be thankful, really & truly thankful for what you DO have NOW!
I miss my Mom so very very much inspite of our conflicts & disagreements. I tried to be a strict Mom whereas she spoiled her grandkids. I guess that's what Grandmothers are all about. I hope I get my chance someday too...! And if not, oh well.... I'll figure something else out. I also realize that I sometimes resented the love that she poured out upon her Grandkids, mainly because that's what I missed so much growing up. Later I realized that this was her way of making amends...I just wished I had taken notice sooner.
Thanks, Mom! for being there for me & for caring for me, even when I didn't notice. Hope you're having a good time now & in all eternity. I wish you the very best... Until we meet again...!
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